Societal expectations demand hard peens for satisfying intercourse. Of course, that's just not true. Many of us enjoy intimacy with no erection, or penis, at all. Settle in and see just how a soft member can offer you (and your partner/s) pleasures untold.


WHY DO I HAVE A SOFT COCK?

For penis owners, it's perfectly normal to experience a lack of erection, whether that's a once a year occurrence or all the time. Some reasons might include: fatigue, performance anxiety, age, as well as mental, emotional and physical health. In fact, it's part of our biological wiring that the body may just need to use its resources elsewhere at that moment.


GRIEVING THE HARD COCK

Loss of erection can be devastating for both the penis owner and their partner(s). Partners are often overlooked in this scenario as they may be supporting their loved ones during a difficult time; for example, a cancer diagnosis or a new medication regime. But, it's important to recognise your feelings, communicate, seek help and grieve together if necessary. Remember, that you can both continue to experience pleasure, intimacy and sex in its myriad variety.


SEX WITH A SOFT COCK

Penetration is only one part of an imaginative and varied sex life. Think about everything else that's involved in lovemaking. Kissing, erotic massage, oral stimulation, role play, mutual masturbation, fingering, grinding, bondage, affection...the list is only limited by your imagination.


SO HOW DO I HANDLE A SOFT COCK?

A soft penis is still as sensitive as an erect one. Tugging, stroking, licking and sucking will still feel wonderful even when the penis is flaccid. (And a soft cock is much easier to suck than a hard one!) It sometimes just takes a different way of looking at lovemaking to enable you to experience it as fun and enjoyable.


PENETRATION WITHOUT A HARD-ON

Penetration with a soft cock may be more gentle and subtle, but still entirely possible with lube and an aroused (read: prepared) orifice. You can use fingers to help guide the penis inside using a 'scissor finger' technique to draw it in. Butt plugs can be used to open the orifice in a way that will allow a softer penis to enter. Again, make sure there is lots of excellent, quality lube on hand. Just the action of grinding together can be fully arousing and delicious in itself.


SEX TOYS

It goes without saying that vibrators and dildos can be used in all sorts of fun and adventurous ways when a hard-on is off the table. Both partners can use toys for vaginal and/or anal penetration. If you have a prostate, there is a world of pleasure to be found in that part of your body, too.


FINALLY

Society is only too happy to tell you that a pill will fix you. Don't get sucked into the propaganda. You can still enjoy an incredible sex life without a hard-on. With less pressure to perform and with fewer expectations and demands, a beautiful sex life awaits.

 Oh, Dolly.